Bring a Gift That Matters This Holiday Season

The holiday season is here. This means festive meals, cozy get-togethers, and probably more than one overplayed holiday movie. However, holiday gatherings can also stir up tension and disagreement. If you’ve ever left a dinner table more stressed than stuffed, you’re not alone.

This year, there’s a better way to approach those tricky conversations. Instead of showing up with a pie or bottle of wine (okay, bring those too), bring a G.I.F.T. The kind that helps you stay grounded, curious, and connected—even with that one family member who loves a good debate.

With this new approach, you’ll set the tone for more positive and meaningful interactions. Let’s make the holiday season a little less stressful and a lot more enjoyable for everyone.

Bring a Gift That Changes the Conversation

Not every gift has to be wrapped. Some of the most powerful ones show up in how we listen, speak, and engage with others. Below is how to bring a G.I.F.T. to your next gathering and make it memorable:

🎁 Get Curious

When you expect conflict from someone, you usually stop being curious about them. You start assuming what they’ll say or how they’ll react before they even open their mouth.

To shift this, write down two or three questions to ask them at the gathering. Focus on learning something new. You might be surprised by what you discover, or even find something you agree on.

🎁 Inquire First

If someone brings up a topic you strongly disagree with, your instinct might be to argue right away. That rarely goes well. Instead, start with a question. Ask how they came to their perspective. This helps people feel heard and builds a little trust. It also gives you more room to engage without going straight into defense mode.

🎁 Follow Up

Don’t stop at one question. Try the “Three-Question Challenge.” When someone shares something you don’t understand or even dislike, follow up with three genuine questions. You don’t have to agree with them. You just need to stay in the conversation long enough to see what’s really behind their words.

🎁 Turn It Around

Once you’ve asked questions and listened, you’ll want to share your own take. Before you do, take a second to reflect on what you heard. This is not just about the words, but the feelings underneath.

After that, offer your perspective. This shows respect and keeps the conversation balanced. Instead of clashing, you’re creating space for both voices to be heard.

Let Connection Be the Gift You Give

NextArrow believes connection is a skill anyone can build. Our workshops and coaching programs help people at every level develop the awareness and tools to lead with confidence, curiosity, and clarity. For this season, we invite you to try the G.I.F.T. approach at your own gatherings.

It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

We offer coaching for individuals, teams, and leaders who want to show up with more purpose and impact. If you’re preparing for a tough conversation, leading a group, or just looking to grow, our programs can help you do that with confidence.

This holiday, don’t just bring dessert. Bring a G.I.F.T. that actually makes the table feel a little warmer. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help